Ok, I homeschool Bella and her best friend Kira is also homeschooled, this is one of our typical walks that I thought that I would share.
This day was Bella's birthday morning and she wanted to go for a walk along Oneroa beach. At low tide you can climb the rocks over to a hidden beach between Oneroa and Little Oneroa. Hidden beaches have a special feeling about them, treasures that are only found at low tide like the small cave. It has an atmosphere like it's only you that has ever stepped onto the clear sand. Your footprints become the first on the sand and you can imagine what it was like in the caveman days when the world was without the human population boom.
These girls are used to each others company and playing in the natural playground outdoors. They pick up sticks and draw, run in the waves, navigate the rocks and find large rock pools to explore. The cave became my prison as they barricaded me in with some carefully balanced sticks and fed me sand pies for dinner. They leaped and jumped over rocks, followed each other drawing circles in the white fresh sand. Nothing was discussed but an understanding between them to just have fun and let each other be independent. Sometimes Kira has the idea first and sometimes Bella, they give and take naturally. This is the kind of thing that I am seeing develop in all the homeschooled community of kids that we know. They have understanding of how to behave and enjoy each others company and give each other respect without demanding it back.
Respect is something that is diminishing within the western world as values of selfishness put themselves first above respect for fellow humans. It is such an important part of being a human being and living within the community. Coming from Essex and the very materialistic approach to life and ending up on a small Island community, it has been very obvious how much more respect there is here. You have to think about others when there is water all around you making escape impossible, so what you give out comes back very quickly.
In saying that it is always exceptions to the general and you can still find many good people where I come from. It is just that the general way of being is to be out for yourself and that life is about material wealth. The trouble is that this is not a happy path and many people become depressed when they become obsessed with themselves. It has been scientifically proven that you cannot be depressed if you think about others. That just goes to show how many people are not looking beyond thereselves to others as the rates of depressed people in western cultures has risen hugely.
One of the things that I am hoping is that Bella will grow up being sure of herself and have an appreciation of the small things in life. That the sand under foot, splashing of waves around her toes will ground her to the earth and her soul to her body. Time spent in nature is soulfood and when we go for walks like this I never tell them what to do and I am always amazed at how much they find to do for themselves.